She was one of the most impressive profiles this company had hired.
A few months into her new role, she started to take erratic leaves, most of them on Monday's. A definite sign of disengagement and this had to be addressed.
I was sitting right in front of her to understand what was going on.
She said, "My manager is pushing me hard, the role I am doing should be quality over speed".
Her focus on negatives was making her blind to the positive sides.
I asked her five questions. You should use them if you are in a similar situation.
Awareness: Do you think your manager has an intent to trouble, or it is the working style mismatch?
Learnability: What are the three things you can learn from this manager and this situation?
Growth: Are you troubled because you are being pushed out of your comfort zone?
Goal: Would these improvements help you move faster in your career goals?
Ownership: How responsible are you for where you are today?
At the core, ask if the situation or manager is helping you become a better version of yourself?
Would you be learning stuff which no textbook will ever teach?
Remember, what you focus on grows; and it's a choice.